{"id":3485,"date":"2024-01-04T15:48:19","date_gmt":"2024-01-04T02:48:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/?page_id=3485"},"modified":"2024-11-19T17:17:39","modified_gmt":"2024-11-19T04:17:39","slug":"setting-boundaries-a-tool-that-may-help","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/?page_id=3485","title":{"rendered":"Setting Boundaries &#8211; A Tool That May Help"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 fusion-flex-container has-pattern-background has-mask-background nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start fusion-flex-content-wrap\" style=\"max-width:1248px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\" style=\"--awb-bg-image:url(&#039;https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/Screenshot-2024-11-19-at-15.13.15-e1731989823458.png&#039;);--awb-bg-size:cover;--awb-width-large:100%;--awb-margin-top-large:0px;--awb-spacing-right-large:1.92%;--awb-margin-bottom-large:20px;--awb-spacing-left-large:1.92%;--awb-width-medium:100%;--awb-order-medium:0;--awb-spacing-right-medium:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-medium:1.92%;--awb-width-small:100%;--awb-order-small:0;--awb-spacing-right-small:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-small:1.92%;\" data-scroll-devices=\"small-visibility,medium-visibility,large-visibility\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column fusion-column-has-bg-image\" data-bg-url=\"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/Screenshot-2024-11-19-at-15.13.15-e1731989823458.png\"><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:50px;margin-bottom:50px;width:100%;\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-1 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-one\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#ffffff;--awb-sep-color:var(--awb-color5);--awb-font-size:30px;\"><h1 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left\" style=\"font-family:&quot;Open Sans&quot;;font-style:normal;font-weight:300;margin:0;letter-spacing:var(--awb-typography1-letter-spacing);text-transform:var(--awb-typography1-text-transform);font-size:1em;line-height:var(--awb-typography1-line-height);\"><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-bottom:100px;width:100%;\"><\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Setting Boundaries &#8211; A Tool That May Help<br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:100px;width:100%;\"><\/div><\/h1><\/div><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:50px;margin-bottom:50px;width:100%;\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-2 fusion-flex-container has-pattern-background has-mask-background nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start fusion-flex-content-wrap\" style=\"max-width:1248px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;--awb-width-large:100%;--awb-margin-top-large:0px;--awb-spacing-right-large:1.92%;--awb-margin-bottom-large:20px;--awb-spacing-left-large:1.92%;--awb-width-medium:100%;--awb-order-medium:0;--awb-spacing-right-medium:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-medium:1.92%;--awb-width-small:100%;--awb-order-small:0;--awb-spacing-right-small:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-small:1.92%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\"><div class=\"fusion-separator fusion-full-width-sep\" style=\"align-self: center;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;margin-top:50px;margin-bottom:50px;width:100%;\"><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p><em><strong>2 Aug 2019<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Boundaries are an issue that come up time and time again in people\u2019s readings. This is because most of us do have issues with personal boundaries to some degree or another.<\/p>\n<p>For those whose personal boundaries for whatever reason, have been totally disregarded by others, it can be hard to set and keep them, or to even in some cases, recognise what should be boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>This is just a simple little tool that will help you to do just that. It won\u2019t fix things over night and will take practice saying no.. but it definitely helps and gives you more self-confidence.<\/p>\n<p>Get a large piece of paper..<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>On it draw 3 circles.<\/li>\n<li>In the pink circle write out all the things you are willing to accept in your life&#8230; these could be things like specific people, love, learning.. etc.. whatever is important to you and your personal values.<\/li>\n<li>In the blue circle write out items that you are willing to accept into your life by invitation only.. things like friends staying at your place, constructive advice etc..<\/li>\n<li>In the black circle.. this is the \u201couter darkness\u201d ring.. these are things that are not welcome in your life<strong> ever<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-fusion-600 wp-image-3483\" src=\"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01-600x682.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"600\" height=\"682\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01-200x227.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01-264x300.jpg 264w, https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01-400x454.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01-600x682.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01-768x872.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01-800x909.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Boundaries-01.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You can add new items as you think of them to the different circles. The physical act of creating this, automatically sets the boundaries in your mind and in your subconcious. So when any given situation arises you <strong>already <\/strong>have the boundary set for it.<\/p>\n<p>So it becomes easier and easier over time for you to say no, and to protect those boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>Eventually it becomes second nature and you don\u2019t have to think twice about it.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-3485","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/3485","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3485"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/3485\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4685,"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/3485\/revisions\/4685"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.walkingtheshadowlands.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3485"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}